With 7 billion humans participating in the game of life, it’s impossible to chart out any sure path to victory. Everyone has to find their own way. When you are unclear of whether you are making progress toward your goals, it can be helpful to have some guiding landmarks identified.
In times of emergency, your mind will be the only guide available to steer you back onto a safe course. When you’ve lost your way, the first thing you need to do is draw a map. Though the map is figurative and only exists in your mind, the best way to prepare yourself to draw it is by first knowing yourself.
It is a good idea to make every effort to stay constantly aware of where you stand in regards to your life goals. By knowing where you are now, you gain clarity in your ability to make assumptions of what will occur in the future. Though it is impossible to know exactly what will happen in the future, having a firm idea of where you wish to go is crucial in developing the framework for your map.
Comparing where you were, where you currently are, and where you hope to be will bring light to the thoughts and ideas most capable of serving as functioning mental landmarks. The thoughts that are most likely to ground you likely differ from what works for me, but here are some suggestions for pulling yourself back in line when you start to lose your way.
When you are feeling lost, it helps to have someone to lean on. But, what happens when the people you normally run to are no longer there and have moved on. It’s up to you to learn from these recently distanced relationships. The provisions you had in the past are not guaranteed for your future.
People change. So do relationships. Evaluate how much you are valued in your current relationships. Find your position by looking to the abstract landmarks of where you are, where you were and where you want to be in these relationships. Seeing how much more or less the people in your life appreciate you can highlight the nuanced changes that occur within relationships over time. This is how I find my bearings with the important people in my life.
It takes years of practice and meditation to gain complete domain over your emotions. I suggest leaving that practice to the likes of monks and ministers. For those of us who deal with everyday problems too often, it is hard to avoid difficult emotions and stress. When it comes to finding out where I stand in terms of my emotional development I choose to evaluate troubling emotions using the same method I use for my relationships.
Knowing how I currently handle stress, anger, and anxiety gives me a starting point. Now I have the option of comparing my current standing to how I’d hope to handle these emotions in the future. This creates a measurable gauge of how much progress is left to be made in the area. Looking to the past gives an idea of how far you’ve come. Emotional growth takes time, so don’t get hung up on every moment. The only thing you are obligated to do to make improvements is to continue working on it.
Use your experiences and expectations to set yourself back on course. If you have come into poor circumstances, maybe you need to get yourself back on path. Or better yet, you can pave a new path!
The choices you make determine your outcome. So if you actively decide to improve, you’ll find yourself veering towards success. The inverse is also true. If you take no action your efforts will stagnate, leading you nowhere.
Keep an eye on where you are headed in life, if you stop paying attention you might just end up lost. Don’t worry, it happens to all of us.
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